Monday, February 18, 2013

We're not superheroes, and that's OK

This blog is supposed to be about lessons, right? Well, an extremely important lesson is finally starting to sink in: I need help.

Here's another little gem for free: You need help as well. What kind of help? It depends on the person and the situation. Help can be financial aid and/or emotional support from family and friends, God, prayer, therapy, medication, etc. No matter what it is, you're eventually going to find yourself dealing with a situation that you just can't handle, and none of us can handle everything by ourselves. It's freakin' impossible, and the sooner you realize that, the better off you'll be.

I finalized that I needed my version of help after many sleepless nights, headaches, anger and tears over situations that seem to be coming to a head at the same time: deteriorating friendships, both deep and not as deep they seemed; a shattered familial relationship that could be beyond repair; an uncertain living situation; financial decisions with no easy solutions and financial commitments that require sacrifices that are difficult to accept; and dreams being dashed through no fault of my own. I described it to a friend this way: I'm standing in a field and multiple trains are barreling toward me and I've got nowhere to go and I'm going to get crushed.

I tried to find solutions and control the outcomes in a fruitless effort to "stop the trains" before I realized that trying to handle these situations by myself wasn't going to work. The "trains" are coming, but it's how I handle the impact versus the impact itself that's going to determine whether I'm crushed or badly injured with the ability to heal and move forward.

So, I finally admitted that I need help, and I'm doing it without shame or apology. I don't want to be crushed. I want to survive and figure out this mess so I can move forward, live life and experience the good without being crippled by the bad.

The moral of this story? We're not superheroes, and that's OK. Needing help isn't a sign of weakness or failure, but rather it shows that you're strong enough to put ego, pride and fear aside to get to a better place.

Stay random,

P.S. I started writing this blog one year ago this month, so that's kind of cool. Yay me!


  1. You are right. We all need help sometimes.

  2. Congrats on keeping this blog going for a year!

    You're right. We all need help. :)

  3. That was awesome!

  4. So true! I'm so excited by this post, because truly we all need help and often don't admit that to ourselves. I hope whatever need you have is met!

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